Various members of the IT team file into the conference room. Yet another meeting. Everyone sits down and promptly opens their laptops. Everyone is in the meeting, but is anyone really there?
If you were to ever ask someone why this is the case, the answer you'd hear is that it's because they are just too busy. They'll whip their laptop around to show you their calendar of double- and triple-booked meetings to prove it. They'll say that they have more things to do than can be done in one day, so they must "multitask or die."
So everyone sits in the meeting, but isn't really there. Questions are raised which no one answers - until weeks later when someone, by chance, is paying attention. Meetings become nothing but a place where you come together and wait your turn to give a monologue, but in which very little real dialogue takes place.
I am as guilty as the next guy when it comes to multitasking. (Don't get my wife started about me, my iPhone and the dinner table!) And I'm pretty insanely busy - I'll put my calendar up against anyone's!
But here's the real secret. I don't multitask because I'm too busy to avoid it. I multitask because most meetings I attend are just a waste of time.
It made me wonder. What if we changed that? What if I walked into every meeting and committed that for the next 30 or 60 minutes that meeting and everyone who spoke would get my undivided attention? No laptop. No multitasking. Undivided attention. What would change if I literally hung on the speaker's every word and gave back to them meaningful, thoughtful responses every time?
It would probably take a while for anyone to take notice - they would need to dig their noses out of their laptops first. But I think that if we all did that, something dramatic would happen. How would it change the context of meetings? The care with which people scheduled and conducted them?
I know that for me it would. If I knew that by calling a meeting, each and every person was going to commit that for the duration of the meeting they were going to do nothing else, that they would be giving me 110% of their undivided attention and mental energy - it would cause me to look at things differently.
Is this a good use of their time? Are they going to be angry that I made them stop what they were doing to come and discuss this topic? Would they even show up knowing that they couldn't do anything else and that this time would be lost forever? I know that I would prepare a lot more for meetings to make sure that they were useful and effective. And I'd probably keep them shorter and more focused - I wouldn't want to take any more time than I needed to.
I truly believe that if we banned laptops and blackberrys and cell phones (and yes, iPhones) from every meeting, we would find that we would have a lot fewer meetings and that those we had would be much more meaningful. If we each committed to making a true investment of our time and energy by walking through the door, I believe that the very nature of each meeting would change for the better.
I know that this is probably a pipe dream. But wouldn't it be great if at your next meeting, everyone was really there?